Life is beautiful - Personal Development
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Monday, 4 November 2013
Friday, 13 September 2013
Five Things in my Handbag
Did you realise that what’s in our handbag reflects what stage of career journey you are at? Have a look at our light-hearted article to see where you fit....
Geraldine Gallacher, Managing Director in Executive Coaching Consultancy has coached thousands of women through the different stages of their career and she together with her colleagues have developed a 5 stage model to explain the female career journey. Geraldine wondered whether you could tell what stage of career you are at judging by the contents of your handbag. She said: "It was interesting interviewing the various women at the different stages and it would appear we are more alike than different!"
Stage One - defined by Exploring
Water Bottle - Constantly sipping water is the key to staying awake in lectures and with plenty of places to refill your bottle around Campus it feels good to be environmentally friendly!
The Economist Magazine – Always carrying the latest issue in the hope I’ll read it and stay reasonably informed!
Benefit rose tint – For speedy transformation of lips and cheeks in case of unscheduled socialising.
Campaigns Leaflet – Impossible not to pick these up around Campus but I like know what’s going on and check out events when I have free time.
iPhone – Cannot leave the flat without portable connection to social media!
The Economist Magazine – Always carrying the latest issue in the hope I’ll read it and stay reasonably informed!
Benefit rose tint – For speedy transformation of lips and cheeks in case of unscheduled socialising.
Campaigns Leaflet – Impossible not to pick these up around Campus but I like know what’s going on and check out events when I have free time.
iPhone – Cannot leave the flat without portable connection to social media!
Stage Two - defined by Building & Accelerating
What's in my handbag?
My book - currently reading ‘Gone Girl Gone’ by Gillian Flynn. Although I am meant to be of the Kindle generation, I still prefer an old fashioned book!
My heels(!) - I wear flats for most of the day and whip out my heels for meetings (please don’t judge me)
Paw Paw - an Australian version of Elizabeth Arden’s 8 hour cream. I can’t live without it!
BlackBerry - I am on call 24/7 so it must stay with me at all times so that my clients can get hold of me.
Business cards - I go to lots of networking events so I have to make sure I never run out
My heels(!) - I wear flats for most of the day and whip out my heels for meetings (please don’t judge me)
Paw Paw - an Australian version of Elizabeth Arden’s 8 hour cream. I can’t live without it!
BlackBerry - I am on call 24/7 so it must stay with me at all times so that my clients can get hold of me.
Business cards - I go to lots of networking events so I have to make sure I never run out
Stage Three - defined by Focusing & Balancing
What's in my handbag?
BlackBerry - always contactable and the flashing red light never stops.
Nelson's Teething Granules - always keep spare packets in all my bags!
Estee Lauder Lip Gloss - I don't have time to apply lipstick in the mirror (nor do I want to) but lip gloss adds a little something for meetings and helps makes me look like I've made a slight effort - even though it was applied whilst running for the train most times!
Notebook - a record of my notes, meetings and to do list; a must have.
Tissues - again, another must have. Especially with a 2 year old who is always catching colds and giving them to mummy.
Nelson's Teething Granules - always keep spare packets in all my bags!
Estee Lauder Lip Gloss - I don't have time to apply lipstick in the mirror (nor do I want to) but lip gloss adds a little something for meetings and helps makes me look like I've made a slight effort - even though it was applied whilst running for the train most times!
Notebook - a record of my notes, meetings and to do list; a must have.
Tissues - again, another must have. Especially with a 2 year old who is always catching colds and giving them to mummy.
Stage Four - defined by Tuning
What's in my handbag?
iPad and iPhone - what did I do pre- Apple?
Pair of flats - at 5'1" I still need heels to boost my confidence when presenting to clients
Numerous A4 files - very much a digital immigrant rather than native and so still lug these around!
Purse bulging with receipts- constant reminder of the expenses I have yet to get around to claiming
Gym class timetable- always "intending" to go to the gym if I get an unexpected cancellation.
Pair of flats - at 5'1" I still need heels to boost my confidence when presenting to clients
Numerous A4 files - very much a digital immigrant rather than native and so still lug these around!
Purse bulging with receipts- constant reminder of the expenses I have yet to get around to claiming
Gym class timetable- always "intending" to go to the gym if I get an unexpected cancellation.
Stage Five - defined by Re-energising
What's in my handbag?
Daily activity schedule for The Second Half Centre
Makeup Case by Anya Hindmarch - Blush, lipstick, foundation, concealer, eyeliner
2 pairs of glasses - Both Reading and long distance
The Week magazine
Diary
Two phones - Blackberry and Mobile and a mini ipad
Makeup Case by Anya Hindmarch - Blush, lipstick, foundation, concealer, eyeliner
2 pairs of glasses - Both Reading and long distance
The Week magazine
Diary
Two phones - Blackberry and Mobile and a mini ipad
- See more at: http://www.maternity-coaching.co.uk//newsarticle.htm?articleId=75&sthash.OyLBICvF.mjjo#!
Thursday, 18 April 2013
Wheel of Life
The wheel of life is an
exercise which helps you to see where you are in each area of your life. The
Wheel of Life is powerful because it gives you a visual picture of the way your
life is currently, compared with the way you'd ideally like it to be. Let's
start it!!!!
1. Make a wheel of life as you can see it in the picture
or email me and I will send you one (lifedevelopment@yahoo.co.uk)
2.
Write your Priorities
3.
Next,
taking the centre of the wheel as 0 and
the outer ed ge as 10, rank your level of satisfaction (or frustration etc) with
each area out of 10 by d rawing a
straight or curved line to create a
new outer ed ge. 10: everything is
really great, 0: I am unhappy in this area
4.
This is your wheel of life!!!! If you are happy with what you see don't
go further but if you want to improve some of the priorities read the next
steps.
5.
In a paper write the area to work on and describe
of what “10” would look like. (How do you imagine “10”?). Come up with at least
5 descriptions.
6.
Select
one of the descriptors as your first goal for this chosen area of your life. (From
this point is good to use the GROW model which you can find here or you can do
the next steps).
7.
What
actions will you/ can you take?
8.
Now
as you have explored this write down 3 actions you will take towards a “10”.
9.
Pick
up one of the three that you can do in the next 24-48 hours.
Keep going until you are
satisfied with all your areas/priorities in your life. Good Luck!!!!
Thursday, 7 March 2013
10 Ways to Build Self-Confidence
Confidence is a great tool which can make your life easier.
I’ve given you 10 ways which will help you to grow your confidence (it worked for me :) :) :) ).
2. Go to a networking event and focus on meeting people rather worry about what people will think about you. I know it's not easy. Practise!!!!
Using GROW model to achieve goal setting for work and personal life
The GROW
model is an incredibly simple, yet incredibly effective model for achieving
your goals in life and work. The good thing is that it can be used by anyone
without special training. Below I will show how you can use it and hopefully it
will be helpful to you as much is for me.
GROW is
an acronym for:
- Goal
Goal is
your aim
Where you
want to be. Use one goal at time and be
as specific as possible. To help you may ask yourself the below questions:
What do
you want?
How will
you know when you achieve it?
When do
you want to achieve it by?
- Reality
Exploring
the present reality
Reality
is there you are now regarding your goal. Where are you now in relation to your
goal? How far along are you towards achieving it?
What have
you done specifically so far to achieve your goal?
What
challenges have you met and how you overcome them?
What
strengths do you have which may help?
- Option
Here you need to think as many options as possible to achieve your goal. There may be a single option, or there may be multiple options from which to choose. At the beginning it may be difficult to think many options but writing down all your options/ideas even if you think they are stupid or crazy, eventually it will help you to think good options to help you towards achieving your goals.
Questions
to help you:
What could
you do?
What
else?
- Will/ Way forward
This is the final stage where you need to decide which option is the best to achieve your goal. Also, you need to think about the barriers what may stop you from doing it and what can you do about it.
Question to think about:
Which options
would be fastest/best/preferred?
What
might stop me?
When will
I take action?
This is where the action
begins!!!!
GROW
model is a powerful tool and many life coaches use it to coach their clients. I
have been using it personally a year now and I can tell it's an amazing
tool.
Good Luck
with your goals!!!
Tuesday, 5 March 2013
Interpretation of Dreams- Freud method
Psychoanalyst
Sigmund Freud believed that the interpretation of dreams was the “Royal Road to
the unconscious.” In examining the content of dreams, Freud developed a number
of theories. Amongst these was the interpretation of subconscious thought and
how this was expressed in a symbolic language in dreams to avoid the
potentially disturbing or harmful content of the unconscious mind.
In his
work, Freud categorised the mind into three main parts:
· The Id
– which holds all desires, unchecked urges and the fulfilment of wishes;
· The Ego
– this is interpreted as the conscious mind;
· The
Superego – this exists to maintain censorship over the Id.
During
wake time, the Superego functions to control the Id and to keep in check the
impulses and desires it develops. In this way, the Superego could be seen as
the ‘conscience’ of the mind. Conversely, during sleep periods and through the
function of dreaming, one can be aware of the unconscious mind, the Id. Because
dreams exist without the normal state of consciousness and conscience, the Id
has the opportunity to push all hidden desires to the fore. However, such raw
and unchecked desires can be so psychologically virulent that a ‘censor’ is
employed by the mind to translate the Id’s values into a more acceptable form
of symbolism. This self-induced protection functions to preserve the quality of
sleep and prevent adverse reaction to uncontrolled dream imagery. Resultant,
cryptic and confusing dreams can occur.
Therefore,
if the dream itself can be understood more clearly this could lead to better
understanding of the subconscious mind. Fundamentally, Freud believed that
dreams constituted “the fulfilment of a wish.” He further proposed that dreams
were comprised of two parts:
· Manifest
content;
· Latent
content.
Manifest
content was that which a person could remember upon waking and which they could
later describe to another person when recalling their dream. Freud proffered
that this manifest dream content was itself meaningless since it only existed
to represent the true thought underlying the dream. Freud strongly believed
that it was latent content which held the true meaning of the dream – that is,
the forbidden thoughts and unconscious desires rendered by the Id. Although these
are contained in the manifest content, they are masked and unrecognisable as
their true form.
The
process which occurs in order for latent dream content to be transformed into
more mundane manifest content was described by Freud as ‘dreamwork. ’This
dreamwork process exists to re-interpret latent thoughts in four main ways:
1. Condensation
Two or more latent thoughts are combined to make one manifest dream image. A number of dream elements such as themes, images, figures and ideas, are combined so the dream becomes more condensed.
Two or more latent thoughts are combined to make one manifest dream image. A number of dream elements such as themes, images, figures and ideas, are combined so the dream becomes more condensed.
2. Displacement
Emotions
and desires are transferred onto a meaningless or unrelated object in the
manifest dream and hence avoid the true target of intention.
3. Representation
Complex
or very vague concepts are converted into the imagery and the mind may adopt
similar words or objects instead of portraying its true intent. Freud stated
that dream symbolism was mainly derived from sexual intention which suggests
most dreams have a sexual correlation.
4. Secondary
revision
In this
final stage of dreamwork, Freud advised that absurd and incoherent elements are
lost. Thereby, secondary revision can be interpreted as the organisation of the
dream into a pattern which is relative and synchronised with the dreamer’s
experience of everyday life.
Freud
insisted that dreams were inherently formed as a means for the mind to fulfil
its otherwise suppressed wishes. If a wish, most likely to be sexual in origin,
was unsatisfied during the daily life of the dreamer, then the mind would react
to this internal stimulus by creating a visual and explicit fantasy in
dreamtime in order to satisfy root desires. He posited that this would create
an internal equilibrium and therefore allow for a peaceful night’s sleep
In
interpreting the meaning of dreams, Freud used the ‘free association’ method
to unearth the underlying latent content behind the dream itself. His patients
were asked to describe their dreams in detail and relay the manifest content.
They were then asked to focus on a particular element of the dream and
form as many associations to this as they were able. This process was continued
until all manifest content associations had been discovered and essentially
allowed for the ‘dreamwork’ process to be peeled back to reveal the core latent
content.
There are
many ways to interpret dreams and different psychoanalysts have used various
methodologies to analyse what our dreams could possibly represent. Dreams can
mean a multitude of things and there are different theories on how to interpret
them and the importance that dreams should be afforded. Using Freud's methods
of interpretation the results were clear but not finite and could be totally
different from the conclusions reached if another methodology, such as that of
Jung, was used.
Try it
with your friends. I believe it's a nice, funny exercise (as long as the dream
is not painful memory). You never know, it may reveal the unconscious truth
about you. Good Luck.
PS. The style of this article in not conversational because it was part from my essay.
PS. The style of this article in not conversational because it was part from my essay.
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