Friday 13 September 2013

Five Things in my Handbag

Did you realise that what’s in our handbag reflects what stage of career journey you are at? Have a look at our light-hearted article to see where you fit....

Geraldine Gallacher, Managing Director in  Executive Coaching Consultancy has coached thousands of women through the different stages of their career and she together with her colleagues  have developed a 5 stage model to explain the female career journey. Geraldine wondered whether you could tell what stage of career you are at judging by the contents of your handbag. She said: "It was interesting interviewing the various women at the different stages and it would appear we are more alike than different!" 
5 Stages of Woman's career

                                           Stage One - defined by Exploring

Water Bottle - Constantly sipping water is the key to staying awake in lectures and with plenty of places to refill your bottle around Campus it feels good to be environmentally friendly!
The Economist Magazine – Always carrying the latest issue in the hope I’ll read it and stay reasonably informed!
Benefit rose tint – For speedy transformation of lips and cheeks in case of unscheduled socialising.
Campaigns Leaflet – Impossible not to pick these up around Campus but I like know what’s going on and check out events when I have free time.
iPhone – Cannot leave the flat without portable connection to social media!

Stage Two - defined by Building & Accelerating

What's in my handbag?

My book - currently reading ‘Gone Girl Gone’ by Gillian Flynn. Although I am meant to be of the Kindle generation, I still prefer an old fashioned book!
My heels(!) - I wear flats for most of the day and whip out my heels for meetings (please don’t judge me)
Paw Paw - an Australian version of Elizabeth Arden’s 8 hour cream. I can’t live without it!
BlackBerry - I am on call 24/7 so it must stay with me at all times so that my clients can get hold of me.
Business cards - I go to lots of networking events so I have to make sure I never run out

Stage Three - defined by Focusing & Balancing

What's in my handbag?

BlackBerry - always contactable and the flashing red light never stops.
Nelson's Teething Granules - always keep spare packets in all my bags!
Estee Lauder Lip Gloss - I don't have time to apply lipstick in the mirror (nor do I want to) but lip gloss adds a little something for meetings and helps makes me look like I've made a slight effort - even though it was applied whilst running for the train most times!
Notebook - a record of my notes, meetings and to do list; a must have.
Tissues - again, another must have. Especially with a 2 year old who is always catching colds and giving them to mummy.

Stage Four - defined by Tuning

What's in my handbag?

iPad and iPhone - what did I do pre- Apple?
Pair of flats - at 5'1" I still need heels to boost my confidence when presenting to clients
Numerous A4 files - very much a digital immigrant rather than native and so still lug these around!
Purse bulging with receipts- constant reminder of the expenses I have yet to get around to claiming
Gym class timetable- always "intending" to go to the gym if I get an unexpected cancellation.

Stage Five - defined by Re-energising

What's in my handbag?

Daily activity schedule for The Second Half Centre
Makeup Case
 by Anya Hindmarch - Blush, lipstick, foundation, concealer, eyeliner
2 pairs of glasses
 - Both Reading and long distance
The Week magazine

Diary
Two phones - Blackberry and Mobile and a mini ipad


Thursday 18 April 2013

Wheel of Life


The wheel of life is an exercise which helps you to see where you are in each area of your life. The Wheel of Life is powerful because it gives you a visual picture of the way your life is currently, compared with the way you'd ideally like it to be. Let's start it!!!!
 
1.     Make a wheel of life as you can see it in the picture or email me and I will send you one (lifedevelopment@yahoo.co.uk)

2.      Write your Priorities

3.      Next, taking the centre of the wheel as 0 and the outer edge as 10, rank your level of satisfaction (or frustration etc) with each area out of 10 by drawing a straight or curved line to create a new outer edge. 10: everything is really great, 0: I am unhappy in this area
4.      This is your wheel of life!!!! If you are happy with what you see don't go further but if you want to improve some of the priorities read the next steps.

5.       In a paper write the area to work on and describe of what “10” would look like. (How do you imagine “10”?). Come up with at least 5 descriptions.

6.      Select one of the descriptors as your first goal for this chosen area of your life. (From this point is good to use the GROW model which you can find here or you can do the next steps).

7.      What actions will you/ can you take?

8.      Now as you have explored this write down 3 actions you will take towards a “10”.

9.      Pick up one of the three that you can do in the next 24-48 hours.    
Keep going until you are satisfied with all your areas/priorities in your life. Good Luck!!!!

Thursday 7 March 2013

10 Ways to Build Self-Confidence


Confidence is a great tool which can make your life easier.
I’ve given you 10 ways which will help you  to grow your confidence (it worked for me :) :) :) ).

1. Personal development is a great thing, so sign up for a course/workshop and enjoy it.

2. Go to a networking event and focus on meeting people rather worry about what people will think about you. I know it's not easy. Practise!!!!

3. When you are at a social event, don’t just stick with the people you know but go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. I know it sounds difficult but believe me it needs practise.

4. Do one thing that makes you smile each day.  

5. Are you scared of looking stupid in front of other people?? You and everyone else. It’s not a big thing so don’t let it stop you. Say: “It doesn’t matter.” After all who really cares???? No-one!!!!

6. If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you own it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. Mark Twain said: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that but the really great make you believe you too, can become great.”

7. When you feel you want shout “I deserve better than this!” take a step back and say “I can BE better than this. ” Be the Change you wish to see in the World. ~ Gandhi

8. Confidence sometimes means admitting you’re wrong. Take always responsibility about your actions and words.

9. Keep telling yourself that you ARE confident. Say it enough times, and frequently enough and your subconscious will make you start believing it’s true. The more you believe it’s true, the more it turns into the truth.

10. Learn to say “No” It’s better politely to decline a request rather than bring yourself in to difficult position.




    Using GROW model to achieve goal setting for work and personal life


    The GROW model is an incredibly simple, yet incredibly effective model for achieving your goals in life and work. The good thing is that it can be used by anyone without special training. Below I will show how you can use it and hopefully it will be helpful to you as much is for me.

     

    GROW is an acronym for:
    • Goal
    Goal is your aim
    Where you want to be.  Use one goal at time and be as specific as possible. To help you may ask yourself the below questions:
    What do you want?
    How will you know when you achieve it?
    When do you want to achieve it by?
     
    • Reality
    Exploring the present reality
    Reality is there you are now regarding your goal. Where are you now in relation to your goal? How far along are you towards achieving it?

    What have you done specifically so far to achieve your goal?
    What challenges have you met and how you overcome them?
    What strengths do you have which may help?
     
    • Option
    Stretching beyond what you have tried or thought about before

    Here you need to think as many options as possible to achieve your goal. There may be a single option, or there may be multiple options from which to choose. At the beginning it may be difficult to think many options but writing down all your options/ideas even if you think they are stupid or crazy, eventually it will help you to think good options to help you towards achieving your goals.

    Questions to help you:
    What could you do?
    What else?

    • Will/ Way forward
    Gaining commitment from you towards taking action

    This is the final stage where you need to decide which option is the best to achieve your goal. Also, you need to think about the barriers what may stop you from doing it and what can you do about it.
    Question to think about:

    Which options would be fastest/best/preferred?
    What might stop me?
    When will I take action?

    This is where the action begins!!!!
    GROW model is a powerful tool and many life coaches use it to coach their clients. I have been using it personally a year now and I can tell it's an amazing tool.

    Good Luck with your goals!!!


    Tuesday 5 March 2013

    Interpretation of Dreams- Freud method





    Psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud believed that the interpretation of dreams was the “Royal Road to the unconscious.” In examining the content of dreams, Freud developed a number of theories. Amongst these was the interpretation of subconscious thought and how this was expressed in a symbolic language in dreams to avoid the potentially disturbing or harmful content of the unconscious mind.

    In his work, Freud categorised the mind into three main parts:

    · The Id – which holds all desires, unchecked urges and the fulfilment of wishes;

    · The Ego – this is interpreted as the conscious mind;

    · The Superego – this exists to maintain censorship over the Id.

    During wake time, the Superego functions to control the Id and to keep in check the impulses and desires it develops. In this way, the Superego could be seen as the ‘conscience’ of the mind. Conversely, during sleep periods and through the function of dreaming, one can be aware of the unconscious mind, the Id. Because dreams exist without the normal state of consciousness and conscience, the Id has the opportunity to push all hidden desires to the fore. However, such raw and unchecked desires can be so psychologically virulent that a ‘censor’ is employed by the mind to translate the Id’s values into a more acceptable form of symbolism. This self-induced protection functions to preserve the quality of sleep and prevent adverse reaction to uncontrolled dream imagery. Resultant, cryptic and confusing dreams can occur.

    Therefore, if the dream itself can be understood more clearly this could lead to better understanding of the subconscious mind. Fundamentally, Freud believed that dreams constituted “the fulfilment of a wish.” He further proposed that dreams were comprised of two parts:

    · Manifest content;

    · Latent content.

    Manifest content was that which a person could remember upon waking and which they could later describe to another person when recalling their dream. Freud proffered that this manifest dream content was itself meaningless since it only existed to represent the true thought underlying the dream. Freud strongly believed that it was latent content which held the true meaning of the dream – that is, the forbidden thoughts and unconscious desires rendered by the Id. Although these are contained in the manifest content, they are masked and unrecognisable as their true form.

    The process which occurs in order for latent dream content to be transformed into more mundane manifest content was described by Freud as ‘dreamwork. ’This dreamwork process exists to re-interpret latent thoughts in four main ways:

    1. Condensation
    Two or more latent thoughts are combined to make one manifest dream image. A number of dream elements such as themes, images, figures and ideas, are combined so the dream becomes more condensed.

    2. Displacement

    Emotions and desires are transferred onto a meaningless or unrelated object in the manifest dream and hence avoid the true target of intention.

    3. Representation

    Complex or very vague concepts are converted into the imagery and the mind may adopt similar words or objects instead of portraying its true intent. Freud stated that dream symbolism was mainly derived from sexual intention which suggests most dreams have a sexual correlation.

    4. Secondary revision

    In this final stage of dreamwork, Freud advised that absurd and incoherent elements are lost. Thereby, secondary revision can be interpreted as the organisation of the dream into a pattern which is relative and synchronised with the dreamer’s experience of everyday life.

    Freud insisted that dreams were inherently formed as a means for the mind to fulfil its otherwise suppressed wishes. If a wish, most likely to be sexual in origin, was unsatisfied during the daily life of the dreamer, then the mind would react to this internal stimulus by creating a visual and explicit fantasy in dreamtime in order to satisfy root desires. He posited that this would create an internal equilibrium and therefore allow for a peaceful night’s sleep

    In interpreting the meaning of dreams, Freud used the ‘free association’ method to unearth the underlying latent content behind the dream itself. His patients were asked to describe their dreams in detail and relay the manifest content. They were then asked to focus on a particular element of the dream and form as many associations to this as they were able. This process was continued until all manifest content associations had been discovered and essentially allowed for the ‘dreamwork’ process to be peeled back to reveal the core latent content.

    There are many ways to interpret dreams and different psychoanalysts have used various methodologies to analyse what our dreams could possibly represent. Dreams can mean a multitude of things and there are different theories on how to interpret them and the importance that dreams should be afforded. Using Freud's methods of interpretation the results were clear but not finite and could be totally different from the conclusions reached if another methodology, such as that of Jung, was used.

    Try it with your friends. I believe it's a nice, funny exercise (as long as the dream is not painful memory). You never know, it may reveal the unconscious truth about you. Good Luck.

    PS. The style of this article in not conversational because it was part from my essay.